We don't do anything on Christmas....

'Tis the season y'all! Holidays.

Kwanzaa, Hanukkah, Christmas and Thanksgiving...wow. All within a couple of months at the end of a calendar year. While holidays can be a source of joy for some, they can be a source of dread for others. Maybe you're missing a loved one this year. Perhaps finances are tight and gift-giving takes on a new meaning for you. Maybe holidays make you feel more alone and isolated OR energized at the thought of being around your people more often. There is an endless stream of possible emotions attached to the holiday season and everyone celebrates differently. So, how can we simplify this season for our own sanity?

My family celebrates Christmas every year and one of the things we decided to do very early on was to NOT go annnnywhere on Christmas Day. We don't make any plans. Not a single one. We don't schedule phone calls with family. We don't leave our house at all. And it's non-negotiable. I don't make a big huge dinner or set a fancy table. In fact, we each make our own personal pizzas and it's a heck of a lot more fun for us. We stay in our pajamas, play with new toys, read books, play games, eat lots of snacks and watch movies. Sometimes, mama even gets a nap.

Now, I'm not saying you have to do what my family does but if you're feeling overwhelmed during the holiday season, I'd encourage you to ask yourself "how can I simplify this?" or "what would make this less stressful and more enjoyable?" And listen, if you're tempted to feel selfish or guilty for asking these questions or making changes on behalf of yourself or your family, quit it. Stop it right now. YOU are worth it, boundaries are 100% okay and simplicity is not a crime.

Peace and blessings friends,

Doula Nicole